Broken friendships with Marisa Peer

On “The Only Way is Essex” Lauren and Jess have had huge row over Mark, with Lauren blaming Jess and her family for their break up.

When friends fall out and things become heated, often things get said that would be better left unsaid. It is important to repair broken friendships as friends are so important and enhance our life.

So no matter what you have fallen out about, repair your friendship as soon as you can. Here’s how to rebuild broken friendships.

• Contact your friend and apologise for the argument, even if you feel it was not your fault. Tell them you are sorry that they are hurt and sorry that your actions upset them. Focus on the outcome – you want to repair and get back the friendship you once had and in order to do that you may have to apologise – so just do it.
• It’s not important to be right, it’s important to be kind. So tell your friend that you miss the friendship and want to put it back together and be the one to make the first move.
• When you meet try not to rehash the argument and remember that once you have said something it’s hard to take it back so listen more and speak less. That’s why you have two ears and one mouth. Listen to what she has to say before you say anything.
• Whatever you do say be calm, reasonable and try to understand her point of view. If you can’t, at least say “I understand why you feel the way you do”, as humans have an absolute need to be understood. Instead of going over the argument tell them how you feel about what happened tell them that you want to be friends again, and point out all the things that you miss about them. Don’t be defensive as it may make her react in the same way.
• Meet face to face rather than resolving this by text, email or phone. By meeting in person you can  show your emotions by crying or hugging and can re-establish a bond and show her that you care.
• See your friend’s perspective as well as your own, you can decide to disagree but continue with the friendship by focusing on what your friendship means to you and by reaching a compromise.
• Don’t point out what she did wrong. That will just restart the argument, instead focus on repairing, putting it back together and leaving the argument behind.
• Don’t talk about it with mutual friends, try to get them on your side or make them see your point of view as this can go horribly wrong. Instead fix it between the two of you as soon as you possibly can.

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